What women want – wasn’t that the title of a Mel Gibson movie? I know, it is clichéd. But knowing what women and girls want is something that everybody has always wanted to know. In fact, many women themselves do not even know the path they want!
If you are interested in learning how you can feel more understood, or how to get what you want out of a relationship, then you are in the right place. This article will explain what women want and help you, if you are a woman, understand how you can convey what you want to the men in your life. If you are a man, then this article will help you make your significant other happy or capture the heart of that amazing new girl you have just met.
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Let’s get going! Without further ado, here’s what girls want.
What Girls Like
Feeling supported is crucial
Women just want to feel as though they are supported. If you are interested in a girl, take some time to believe in her. Encourage her. Tell her that she can do it. You need to be her number one fan.
We want to feel special
Women love being spoiled! While she won’t want to feel like she is constantly being waited on hand and foot, she may want to be spoiled every now and then – and with no expectation of any kind of return.
Is she having a rough day? Maybe you can let her know that you are thinking of her and want to help. Your efforts do not have to be super awkward or invasive. Even the smallest gesture can go a long way in showing her that you care.
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The thrill of the chase
There is nothing quite like the thrill of the chase – women love it. If you were talking to a girl for a few weeks and then suddenly she seems to have fallen off the face of the earth, or maybe even just seemed less interested, then it is true – she might not be interested in you anymore. On the other hand, however, she might just be pretending that she is not interested because she wants you to chase her. This will make her feel more desirable and there are several telltale signs that this is what is going on.
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If you say hello to her whenever you see her, or if she always texts you first, it could be that she is trying to get you to notice her so that you will chase her. She wants the thrill of the chase! In addition, if the two of you have meaningful conversations but you haven’t yet made it explicitly clear to each other that you are interested in getting together, she might be subconsciously asking you to chase her.
If she lingers, too, that is a good sign that she wants to spend more time with you. If she hangs around even when you are not able to give her your full attention, such as when you are talking to a friend, she is giving you a hint. Take it!
We want to be stood up for
Women love a knight in shining armor. If someone is threatening her, questioning her, minimizing her accomplishments – whatever it is, if you see an opportunity to help out, do it! Stand up for her. You need to stand up for the girl you are interested in no matter what. And if you do so, you will be able to sweep her off her feet instantly.
Social media is important
Yes, yes, it is easy to make fun of women and their proclivities toward social media! Girls just love taking videos and pictures and posting them on the Internet, it is not exactly a secret. However, it is important that you cherish this. Knowing how to flirt with a girl over Facebook or Snapchat is a simple way to get her to think about you. Girls like knowing that they are getting some attention on social media and it is a good way to show her how hilarious you are. All you need to do is drop her a DM and start up a conversation. The attention will make her feel really good about herself.
The little surprises are nice
Often in a relationship, the little surprises go by the wayside. It is very easy to forget that the little things matter, but remember, they very much do! Try to spend a little extra effort thinking about how you can surprise her. And no, you do not need to spend an arm and a leg to do this! Women are not out to break the bank, despite what the media likes to tell you.
Here’s an example: say you are at Target, picking up a bottle of shampoo. You walk by the cash register and notice that a candle with her favorite scent is on sale. Perhaps you could pick it up for her. After all, what will it cost you, a few dollars? That will be more than worth the investment to see that smile on her face, won’t it?
You don’t have to shower the woman you are interested in with presents every single day. Nor is it necessary to do so every month. However, the little surprises are important because it lets women know that they are being thought of.
It is always nice to feel appreciated
Just like women enjoy being surprised or being stood up for, they also like to feel appreciated. If your girl makes dinner and it was good, let her know. If it wasn’t delicious… then maybe find something else to compliment or thank her for the dinner. Let her know that you appreciate all the little things she does for you, no matter how mundane or whether you expect those things to happen or not.
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Communication is key even if it is just texting!
Remember, a good relationship has good communication at its core. You two need to be able to talk frequently, both about everything and about nothing at all. Sure, some of your conversations might seem trivial or even downright silly. But do you really care if she wears those shoes with that dress? Probably not. But here’s the deal – you sometimes have to bite your tongue. Women need to be womanly in front of men they care about and if they ask for your opinion, give one, even if you do not care.
If something is important to them, let them talk. They like to feel valued and they do not want to feel like you are just sitting there or feeling as though you have better things you could be doing. They want to feel valued. No matter what, in the relationship, be open to conversation. If she is unhappy, she is going to want to talk about it. Try not to get defensive or shut her out because it won’t solve anything. Relationships are about communication and about bonding, so take the time to check in frequently on yours.
Do not forget that this rule applies to texting, too! Text her every chance you get. And no, you do not have to be overbearing about it. Just a simple text to let her know that you are thinking of her first thing in the morning will suffice. Send her a hilarious picture. Tell her about what you are doing. She does not care what you send her, she just wants to know that you are thinking of her.
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Guys should look good
Sure, this is a little bit superficial. But you would think the same thing about us! Now, remember, we know that you are only as good as the natural genes you have. You can’t make yourself more attractive if you are just not a good looking dude. However, you can easily groom yourself and make it so you are more attractive. Some tips? Grow a beard! Facial hair is a great way to hide any facial imperfections, and it will really turn her on. Beards are sexy!
Another option is to moisturize and cleanse. Many men steer clear of these grooming products because they think those things are feminine and will ‘diminish’ their manliness. However, no girl wants to be with a guy who is covered in acne or blackheads. The silkier your skin is, the closer she is going to want to get to you.
Finally, it does not hurt to make yourself look smarter. Maybe put on a pair of glasses. Even if you do not need them, glasses are a great fashion statement that will attract just about any woman to you – no matter how unattractive you might be.
You should show that you care
Take the time to communicate. Find out how her day was. Let her know that you are interested in what goes on in her life. Give some encouragement and show that you care.
Being flirted with is great
Flirting shouldn’t stop just because you are married! At all stages of a relationship, women love being flirted with. After all, girls like to be noticed! If they didn’t, why would they put so much effort into their appearance? Girls do not enjoy slaving away for hours to put on the perfect makeup or strut around in painful high heels – they do it to look good! Letting the woman you care about know that you notice her is a surefire way to make her happy. When you are flirting with her, you are giving her your undivided attention and she will find you irresistible as a result!
Self-improvement is the name of the game
As women, we are almost always trying to improve ourselves. And no woman likes to be with a man who thinks that he is perfect just the way he is. Instead, try to work at improving yourself. If you do not actively try to make yourself a better person, you are going to stay right where you are and never be able to attract and keep the girl of your dreams.
Teamwork is vital
If she made dinner, it is your turn to clean up. If she cleaned the house, go wash her car. You might find that the balance in a relationship isn’t always 100% equal. Everybody has the odd stressful month here or there but it is not about keeping score or trying to keep things even. Instead, it is about working together as a team, because after all, it takes two to tango. Showing her that you are a team together is a foolproof way to get her interested in you.
We need to be picked up when we fall
If she fails or if she feels down in the dumps, she is going to need some extra support. It is your job to swoop in and lift her up. No matter what the situation is, be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear. Remind her of her value and be there for her.
Please make us laugh!
This is so often overlooked, it is not even funny – no pun intended! Women love laughing, and if you can make her laugh, then you have hit the jackpot. A girl wants to be with a dude who can lift her up when she is feeling sad or distract her when she is feeling mad. If you can make her laugh, she will fall in love with you over and over and over again, even if she is frustrated with you for forgetting to do the dishes yet again!
How to Figure Out What Girls Want
Read more dating advice
Reading is a great way to learn more about a new topic and nowhere is that truer than with dating advice! The more you read, the more you will learn and the better you will be when interacting with women.
Ask a friend
Do you have any close female friends? Take advantage of that and just ask them for advice. They will give you some good information, direct from the source.
Try some new strategies out
Once you think you have a good grasp of what it is that women actually want, it is time to try out your strategies. See how our advice pans out in the real world!
Have some fun!
No matter what, try not to let these strategies stress you out. With age and wisdom will come a better understanding of what it is that women actually want and keep in mind that different women may want different things, too. So have some fun with it and do not be afraid to experiment a little.
So, What’s Next?
Now that you know exactly what girls want, what are you going to do with this information? Here’s a tip, get out there and try out some of these suggestions! Every girl is different, but now that you have the knowledge you need to succeed, you will be able to be a winner with any girl, no matter what.