Guys are not necessarily great at expressing a lot, but if there is something they have a handle on, it is showing you how attractive they think you are. Many women wonder how they will be able to tell that a man is into her, but the signs are blatantly obvious. Men may believe they are coy, but their actions and expressions are always dead giveaways. Once you know what you are looking for, you will be able to tell whether a man is attracted to you sexually without even needing to bat an eye.
Why would you want to have this skill, you might ask? First of all, knowing whether a man is attracted to you sexually will allow you to determine if he is just attracted to you physically or he has feelings for you beyond your looks. You will also be well equipped with the skills and knowledge you need to determine whether you can approach this new situation with confidence – or if you might be rejected.
Without further ado, here are the ways to tell if a man is interested in you. While every man might show different signs of attraction, these are some telltale signs that you should always be on the lookout for.
Signs a Man is Attracted to You Sexually
He can’t keep his eyes off you
If you keep noticing him noticing you, there is a good chance he is interested in you. This is the first and usually clearest sign that a man is attracted to you sexually. He won’t be able to control where he fixes his gaze! If he can’t seem to look away and is giving you the “elevator eyes” – looking you up and down – you had better make a move. He is definitely interested without a shadow of a doubt!
He stays close by
If he is expressing a lot of interest in what you say and standing close by, he could just be interested in what you have to say and hard of hearing. Or…he could be attracted to you sexually. If a man stands just inches away and likes to talk close, there is a good chance he is interested. A man who is not interested will create a natural distance between your bodies, perhaps even crossing his arms or displaying other body languages that express his lack of interest. But if a man stands close by and can’t seem to get enough of your mere presence, this is a good sign that he is interested.
He touches you constantly
You are having a conversation with a guy – maybe not even the man of your dreams – and he lightly touches your arm as he speaks. Does this sound familiar? This is one of the most common ways that men express their sexual attraction. It is easy to overlook this sign as many women assume that it is just how a man expresses himself while he is speaking. But in most cases, it means that a man is attracted to you sexually. He will touch you as he speaks because he has a deep desire to be near you.
Men who sit with their legs spread are often trying to subconsciously express that they are sexually attracted to you. Men who sit in this manner are trying to declare their dominance and show their manhood, and they may sit or even stand with their legs apart. Whether you choose to look at what’s going on between those legs is up to you, but we can guarantee that he is hoping that you will check it out regardless.
He parts his lips
This is a natural behavior that men and women alike share. Lightly parting your lips is a sign that you are preparing yourself for something to come. Men do this just as often as – if not more than – women, and it usually happens right when they first look at you. If you see his jaw “drop,” so to speak, he is attracted to you.
He turns red
He might not be embarrassed, ladies! When we become aroused, our heart rates increase and our blood pressure rises. The most obvious physical manifestation of this is that our faces become red. We can’t help it any more than we can help not sneezing when we are cold – it is biology. Men are just like women in this regard, and a red, flushed face is a good sign that a man is sexually attracted to you. If he can’t stop his face from turning crimson every time you walk by, chances are he is down for anything.
He makes excellent eye contact
We already mentioned that if he thinks you are hot, he is going to have his eyes all over your body. But eye contact is an integral part of this, too. Humans naturally try to make eye contact with each other to get each others’ attention and demonstrate interest. Any man who is interested in more than what you have to say will be looking directly into your eyes, as well as at other parts of your body too.
He can’t stop staring
As a corollary point to the one mentioned above, he will not only make eye contact, but he will hold it. For a long, long time. A man who is extremely attracted to a woman won’t be able to stop looking at her. While doing that, he most likely will be thinking about all the things you two could do together in bed (or elsewhere, depending on your preference). If you catch a man staring relentlessly at you, there is a good chance he is ready to seduce you.
He is hypervigilant about other men
This one can be a bit more subtle and difficult to catch. Men are territorial, and your guy won’t like it if other men are trying to check you out. He will be very aware of the presence of other males, and will seek reassurance that you are only interested in him. You might notice him scanning the room when you are together or he may even actually point it out to you.
He can’t stop thinking about you
This one, too, is more difficult to observe, but if a man is attracted to you and finds you utterly irresistible, he will send out certain signals so that you know he is thinking about you. Some men are much more open, sending easy-to-read-signals, but others tend to be more inconspicuous about it. However, if a man can’t resist you, he will speak to you in a way that makes you feel more interesting than you might actually be. He will be invested in what you have to say and will attempt to get to know you on a more profound level.
His voice drops
If a man’s voice drops a pitch or two every time you talk to him, chances are, he is interested in you. A deep voice can be explained easily by science. Deep voices indicate a good potential mate as he can produce children that are genetically healthier. A man with a deep voice is expected to live longer. Therefore, you might notice a man’s voice dropping significantly when he speaks to you. Keep in mind, though, that there are studies which also suggested that deep-voiced men may be more prone to infidelity and can’t be trusted as easily as those with higher-pitched voices.
He keeps adjusting himself
This happens to all of us, right? If you are interested in someone or really want to make a good impression like at a job interview, you will automatically want to make sure you look your best. You might pat yourself down, fix your hair, or even adjust your clothes. The same goes for men, too.
He can’t stop fidgeting
If he is normally a Nervous Nelly, there is probably not much to this. But if you are on a date with a man and he can’t stop moving – whether he is fooling with the coaster, swishing his ice in his glass or something else – he might be interested in you. Some women take these signs as signs of boredom, but they can also indicate attraction, passion, and anxiety over whether you feel the same way.
He won’t stop flirting
If a man has stepped up his flirting game, congratulations! He is probably into you. He wants you to know that he only has eyes for you. A man who is interested in you physically more than emotionally may lean toward physical flirting – lightly pulling at your hair or throwing cheesy pick up lines at you. No matter what form the flirting takes, a man who is sexually attracted to you will do anything in his power to let you know he thinks you are attractive.
He stares inappropriately
We might not always like these advances, but a man who is staring at R-rated places might be interested in you as more than just a friend. If you catch him looking at your lips, your butt, or your boobs, especially for an extended period of time, he is definitely thinking about you in a dirty way.
He can’t help smiling
A man who is really into a woman won’t be able to stop the corner of his lips from curling upward when he sees you. He will use this as a way to draw a woman to him and will have a hard time pasting on a frown.
He finds reasons to smell you
There is not a lot of research as to why men do this, but what we do know is that people are drawn to their potential partners’ scents. If a man keeps leaning over to inhale the air near your hair or neck, you have two choices. You could be flattered – or run! This depends, of course, on whether the affections are returned. However, keep in mind that men can be attracted to the pheromones you are releasing. Natural scent can do the job on its own, but many women also wear certain perfumes that entice men even further.
He faces you
If a man stands facing you the entire time you’re talking to them, he is not only interested in what you have to say but he could be attracted to you, too. When you are appealing to someone, a common way of showing this is by turning our entire bodies to face them. This shows the person that you are interested and also gives them a better view of you as a whole – a subconscious action that plays a huge role in selecting potential partners!
Your conversations are longer than they need to be
If he finds a reason to linger and talk to you long after the conversation should have naturally ended, you have got a smitten man on your hands. Even if it is a guy you have never met before, a man who stays longer than the conversation naturally needs to be could be interested.
You will just know it
While all of these signs can be helpful in determining whether a man is truly interested in you or not, know that they will vary depending on the man. You will have to trust your gut on this one! Sexual attraction is like a spark and it will ignite rapidly between a pair of people. You have to know how to trust yourself in order to determine whether a man is attracted to you or not. Remember, the attraction does not always go both ways! Even if you are not interested in a man, you will likely still notice a sort of tension when a man is sexually attracted to you.
So What Now?
It can be tough to tell whether a man is attracted to you sexually, but paying close attention to his posture, behavior, and demeanor can help determine this for you. When a man is interested in a woman, he will do everything in his power – most of it subconsciously – to let her know.
Some men are better with words than others, but all men will show their sexual attraction through these seemingly innocent gestures. Now that you know the signs, you are ready for your next date! Make sure you leave a comment with your suggestions, and be sure to share this article with the other ladies in your life.