How To Make Those Three Little Words Even More Special
How many times a day do you say “I love you” to your other half? We tend to use those words a lot; not only in intimate moments, but also in everyday situations. At times, it can feel as if the words have turned into a phrase, or as if they are losing their true meaning. Does that mean you should stop saying it to avoid sounding trite? Not at all! In any relationship, especially long-standing ones, the words “I love you” have a huge effect on your partner. They can:
- Make your loved one feel secure and protected in a hostile world.
- Reassure them of your continued affection, regardless of what difficulties you might be facing together.
- Lift your partner’s spirits when he or she feels low.
- Make them appreciate the loving relationship they lead with you.
- Be a source of comfort even when you are not around physically.
Of course, not everybody is a wordsmith. Sometimes what you feel inside can be incredibly difficult to express. We don’t find the right words, but don’t want to use commonplace expressions that sound stilted and unnatural. Never fear! In this article, you will find plenty of ideas in regards to what you can say to your partner. The best thing is you will personalize these reasons, so they will always be your own sentiments expressing your true feelings, to ensure your relationship stays strong, healthy and full of love.
Tell him the reasons you love him
1. I love you because you chose to be with me
How amazing is it that your partner has chosen to be in a relationship with you? They have decided that you are the person they want to concentrate their time and energy on, share their thoughts and worries with, and make the focal point of their life. What a privilege that is! Now, it is your turn to choose and you should choose to show your loved one how graciously you accept, appreciate and reciprocate their gift to you.
2. I love you because you open my life to new dimensions
Everybody’s viewpoints are different, but we are not open to taking in everyone else’s unique positions because we just simply cannot. We meet so many people every single day and we would be flooded with impressions. When it comes to the person you love, that changes. You want to know what they think and why they think that way. You want to know everything about their experiences, and how those have influenced their thought processes and behavior.
That doesn’t mean that you have to agree with everything your partner says, or even change your own opinions and ideas on certain topics. But it is an incredibly valuable to get someone else’s perspective. It is like walking in somebody else’s shoes for a while which is a new experience that widens your own horizons. Surely this sort of mind-expansion is something to be immensely grateful for, right? Well, go on then, tell your love!
3. I love you for the positiveness you bring to my life
We all know those times when nothing is going right. The whole world seems to descend into darkness, all is doom and gloom while there is no shred of light to be found. It is just then that we need someone by our side, someone who gently points out the small graces that we should be thankful for, and slowly leads us back to a lighter, happier self. If you are so lucky to have a person like that by your side, make sure you let them know how much it means to you.
4. I love you because you challenge me
When we are talking about your partner challenging you, we don’t mean a provocation in an aggressive or argumentative way. A challenge can be mental or intellectual, and it can be very stimulating. In life, we are supposed to grow and develop, and ideally, we find partners who not only share our goal of self-development but will also egg us on to move further up our own path.
Once you find that special person who loves to talk to you, enter discussions about topics you feel passionate about, or encourage you to try something you haven’t before like a new sporting activity, perhaps. The door opens to a relationship that will be fulfilling beyond imagination.
5. I love you for your relationships with others around you
It has been said that you should never trust anyone who is rude to a waiter. Your new partner will be sweet to you, sure, but how do they treat strangers? How a person interacts with others can say a lot about their true personality. What is even more revealing is their relationship to other fixtures in their lives like family members or old friends. If your love is somebody who nurtures caring, compassionate connections with the people who are important to them, you might feel a real pride and more than that, gratitude for your own special bond.
6. I love you because I don’t have to pretend with you
Being the person you are expected to be can be exhausting. At work, big family occasions, formal functions – who doesn’t put on a polished exterior to impress elders, superiors, old acquaintances, etc.? But you can only feel truly comfortable with somebody who loves you even without your mask. Whether you are exhilarated or miserable, whether you are bored or childishly excited, if you can freely express yourself without fearing that you are losing the other person’s good opinion, you should thank that person for it. Let them know how grateful you are that you can always be yourself with them, and still feel loved.
7. I love you for your sense of humor
It’s wonderful to have somebody in your life who can make you laugh. We all have our unique sense of humor, and to meet somebody you can share a laugh with is to be treasured. Maybe you even have your own little inside jokes that others don’t get, that just belong to yourselves. And it’s amazing to be able to make your special someone laugh in return. To hear the sound of their joy and to know that you have given this moment to them can make you feel like falling in love with them all over again.
8. I love you because you listen to me
Going through your day, how many times do you think to yourself, “I can’t wait to tell him (or her) about this!”? Things that happen to you at work, conversations you overhear, a juicy bit of gossip you can’t talk about with anybody else – your partner will listen to everything you tell them and thus share in your day.
More than that, they will also share in your innermost thoughts. You can talk to your partner about feelings that you would be too ashamed to share with other people, about your crazy fantasies of your future life, and all those ideas that would make you look a bit weird to strangers. Tell your partner that you love them for this fantastic listening skill, and don’t forget to return the favor!
9. I love you because you give me confidence
You are not everyone’s cup of tea, and unfortunately there will be times in your life when people remind you of that. Your ways of dealing with certain situations, or even your own behaviors, might be criticized and that can be quite hurtful. But you are in luck if you have got your partner by your side, cheering you on and reminding you that you are loved and cherished, no matter what.
To have a person in your life who adores all your odd little ways, who knows your flaws and still loves you, makes you feel gratitude. It reassures you of your worthiness, it shows you that you are appreciated, and gives you well-deserved confidence to serve as your armor in the outside world. Your partner will be there to remind you that, while you are not everyone’s cup of tea, you don’t have to be because you are theirs, and that is all that counts.
10. I love you for the nicknames you give me
Only the people you are especially close to can find endearments for you that make you feel loved and nobody more so than the most special person in your life. If you share real intimacy with someone, the way they address you can change. This is a natural process and will not feel fake, or “put on”.
Maybe it’s not even a nickname that your partner calls you by. Maybe they just say your name in their very own special way that is meant to express all the tenderness they feel for you. If somebody manages to make you feel that way, tell them that you love them for it.
11. I love you because you turn me on
There are many dimensions to a relationship, and we have to work on all of them to make it successful. But that is also true for the relationships we have with our friends and family. One thing that sets a romantic relationship apart is the physical side. To connect sexually creates real intimacy. So, it is not surprising how important it is to let your partner know how much you desire them.
We are constantly bombarded with images of what we should look like. When we watch TV, surf the net, or read magazines, all we see are these perfect prototypes showing us what we should find attractive. If we compare ourselves to these models, we often end up feeling insecure or not good enough.
Don’t let your partner feel like that. Make sure that they know how sexy you think they are. Compliment them on their body, the way they move, and their sensuality. When your other half sees how attracted you are to them, it will make them feel comfortable and confident in their own skin and secure in their relationship with you. Moreover, this will keep the fire in your relationship alive!
12. I love you because you make me feel like your one-in-a-million
Imagine travelling on the subway. You are surrounded by dozens of people, all sitting and standing in the same car, going to work or home or see friends. Do you think about them, their lives and destinations? You probably don’t. You are concerned with your own immediate issues and these people around you are simply backgrounds, extras in the movie of your life.
And that is exactly what you are to most other people. Nobody thinks much about you when you walk past them down the street, or sit next to them on a park bench. You are just one of millions of people, not standing out in any particular way. Does that sound depressing?
Well, it could be, but keep in mind that to somebody, you are NOT one of millions of people. You are one in a million. Love that person to whom you are everything, who cares about you, thinks about you, and makes certain that you know you are special to them. Make sure you tell them why you love them too.
13. I love you because you make me feel understood
To others, what we say and do can often seem weird or unreasonable. However, this is not the case to the person you share your life with. They know you more deeply than anybody else could and understand your innermost thoughts and wishes. Even when you are behaving irrationally, your partner will see the motivation or emotion behind it. They might not always agree with you, but they will understand and that is something worth loving them for.
14. I love you because you are in this for the long haul
Falling in love is fun but staying in love can be a lot of hard work. Science has proven that our bodies prefer the hormonal party that happens inside us when we are just starting a new relationship. Therefore, we are up against a powerful opposition if we are trying to keep it going long-term. If your partner feels the same way about you and is willing to invest the time, energy, and thought it takes to make a relationship work, they are a keeper.
15. I love you because without you, my life would not be my life
Everything we have discussed so far leads up to this: without your partner, your life would be vastly different. Think of all the qualities you love about your partner and all the quaint little habits you find amusing or even those characteristics you find irritating and challenging. You would not want to imagine your life without that richness you find in your relationship with the person you love. Your partner makes your life better just by being there and if you feel that that is true, then what are you waiting for? Go and tell your partner now: I love you, because without you, my life would not be my life.