It’s no secret that it can be awfully difficult to maintain a happy long distance relationship. Because you don’t get to see your long distance lover in person that much, you may sometimes feel like you’re not making your partner feel satisfied. However, thanks to the internet and advances in mobile technology, it’s now much easier to connect with your partner. There are many ways to make your other half happy, even if they are miles away. It all boils down to the following three steps.
How to Satisfy Your Long Distance Lover
1. Communicate from a distance
Writing emails every day is a great way to keep in touch and to keep each other updated about your daily life. While you can’t have a conversation in person, it doesn’t mean that you can’t connect with your partner from far away. To keep things interesting, you can mix things up with different types of emails like light-hearted mails, loving ones, and even some serious messages.
Be sure to include small details of what you’ve done the entire day, even if it might seem mundane to you, your partner will appreciate it. You can talk about your work, people you’ve interacted with, meal plans, etc., so your partner will feel like they are going through the day with you.
Make sure that you only send these personal emails via a private platform and avoid using work or school platforms. Not only is it unprofessional, but it could be quite embarrassing for you if exposed.
Send pictures of yourself or something interesting that you’ve done, like the meal you’ve cooked or a picture you’ve drawn. A picture is worth a thousand words and can be one of the most efficient ways of communication for couples in a long distance relationship. Just like your messages, you should send a variety of different pictures like smiling shots, funny ones, and also spice it up a bit with some naughty ones too!
However, you must be aware of how to protect your pictures as they could easily fall into the wrong hands if you’re not careful. Make sure that your phones and computers are secure, and you shouldn’t give your passwords out to anyone at all.
A grand gesture in a romantic letter can be something that you do occasionally as something extra special for your partner. Although snail mail can be slow, its advantage is that it can be significantly more intimate than a digital message. Your handwriting shows your personality and you can spray the letter with your favorite perfume or even send a kiss by making a mark on the paper with your lips. Your partner’s emotions will be intensified, plus it’s always nice to receive something special from someone you love unexpectedly in the mail.
Communication with your voice can also be more intimate than text-based messages. This could take more effort with arranging a time when both of you are available, but the reward from having real-time conversations will certainly make it worth while. It’s also much easier to plan your next meeting together when you’re having a conversation in real-time.
If both you and your partner feel comfortable, you can even have a bit of phone sex now and then to keep things exciting between you. You can start off with something naughty but mild to see how both of you enjoy it and only bring it to the next level if both of you want to. You can also tease your partner a little to grow their anticipation for a scheduled phone sex date with a text message.
Put your webcams to use and have a video chat on Skype. This is a step-up from a phone conversation, but you’ll need a lot more privacy and time to have regular Skype dates, not to mention requiring a much better internet connection. There’s nothing more frustrating than looking forward to seeing your partner on Skype only to have blurry visuals and an interrupted conversation.
You can, of course, make things extremely thrilling with sexy Skype dates but again, you’ll have to make sure that both of you are on the same page. It’s imperative that both of you are in a very private room with high-speed internet connection for this.
Just like when you’re on the phone, you can begin by giving each other compliments on your looks. You can move on to sharing what you’d like to do to each other. Finally, if both of you are comfortable enough, you can get naked and have cybersex over Skype with each other.
2. Make the best out of every visit
Spontaneity keeps it fun and interesting for the relationship. Don’t just follow a fixed routine every single day. Sometimes you can give your partner a surprise by showing up at their doorstep unexpectedly. This is a grand gesture of romance and shows your partner how much you miss them.
However, be sure that you don’t show up at a bad time like when they have other commitments or are away. Work with your partner’s roommate or friends who live near them who would know about their schedule. Alternatively, you could also sneakily ask about their availability for the time you plan to visit, without giving away your intention.
It’s very important that you think about the status of your relationship before surprising them with a visit. Are you in a monogamous relationship? If you’re not, it might be best not show up unannounced in case your partner is with someone else at the moment you visit.
Visiting a place neither of you has been to before together can be a fantastic way to grow your bond. Discovering new things and exploring the world side by side creates good memories that your partner will associate with you. It doesn’t have to be a long and extensive trip far away. You can take a weekend off together and stay in a cabin enjoying each other’s company. You can also sample new activities like hiking, horseback riding, or even bungee jumping just to name a few.
A factor that you need to consider is what kind of budget both of you have. An expensive trip could backfire and add stress to your relationship. To save money and time, you can meet up at a destination that’s halfway between your locations. Just remember that the most important thing is spending time together, so leave out anything that you can’t afford.
Leave behind a token of remembrance for your partner at the end of your trip. Before you part ways and return to your respective homes, give your partner something personal and intimate that will remind them of you. For example, a piece of your clothing with a naughty note attached will certainly leave your partner wanting for more. You can also buy a small gift like a sex toy to enhance your next Skype session when you’re away from each other again.
If it’s the end of your visit to your partner’s place, you can hide something for them so that when you’re gone, they can still get a surprise from you. Hide a note telling them how much you miss them in their drawer, pockets, wallet, or even sandwiched between the pages of the book they are reading. Just make sure that the place you hide the note is somewhere they will definitely see it, but private enough that other people don’t find it and ruin your surprise.
3. Cultivate and care for the relationship
Having trust is the most important thing in a long distance relationship, in both giving assurance to your partner and trusting them from your side. This is especially true for long distance relationship since you don’t have the luxury of physically seeing each other every day. When your partner is far away, you must take their word when they tell you what they have done that day. Furthermore, insecurities and envy can build up easily if you haven’t seen them for a long time, but they have been spending that time with other people.
You should always give your partner the benefit of the doubt if they have never given you any reason not to trust them. If they tell you where they are, don’t try to reconfirm it by stalking them on Facebook or constantly calling them on the phone. This could make your partner feel like you don’t trust them and create resentment. If you’re not able to trust your partner, you might want to reconsider if a long distance relationship is something you want.
Be dependable and consistent so that your partner can always count on you. Maintaining a long distance relationship requires more effort than normal relationships where both parties see each other regularly to keep the spark alive. Once you’ve made a commitment to putting time into the relationship, you’ll need to take it seriously and keep your promise.
Manage and coordinate your schedules so that you can find a time every day when both of you are available for a Skype or phone call. Commit yourself to the established routine and if you really can’t make it, tell your partner as soon as possible, including the reason why you’ll have to take a rain check.
Regularly connect with each other and make your communication effective. Being in touch frequently will make you feel involved in each other’s lives. This is absolutely essential to maintain a long distance relationship. You don’t have to talk to each other for the entire day, but daily connections will make you feel fulfilled, knowing that your partner is willing to share everything with you.
However, make sure that you’re not just always talking about yourself. Listen to your partner’s input too and you can also ask for their opinions on the subject you’re talking about. It takes two to tango and nobody likes to be with someone who only talks about themselves. So don’t be that person!
Constantly make sure that you’re on the same page when it comes to the relationship. Let your partner know exactly where they stand in your heart and where you’d like to take the relationship to. An unclear and confusing relationship is a breeding ground for jealousy, distrust, and affairs.
Set clear boundaries on what is acceptable in the relationship. Some people are in an open relationship, seeing other people when they are apart. If this isn’t something you’re comfortable with, make sure to tell your partner and see if they also agree with being monogamous.
People grow and so do relationships. Sometimes, you might want something different after the relationship has had time to develop. You should always discuss this with your partner before changing the status of your relationship. Do you want to keep things casual or take the relationship further? Communicate your expectations and desires while listening to their requirements too and try to find a middle ground where both of you are happy. If both of you have different long-term goals in mind, you might want to reconsider the relationship. It might be better for you to find someone else who shares the same life goals for the future.