Today’s article is a guest post by Zak from Sofia Gray.
When most people hear someone’s in a long-distance relationship, they usually assume it’s not going to last. Their doubts make sense as long-distance relationships have a massive obstacle in between them: distance. But in reality, long-distance relationships can lead to a more fulfilling relationship than others. That doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. But if you want your long-distance relationship to work, here are seven ways to stay connected.
Have a positive mindset
Everyone is telling you the struggles of long-distance relationships, but this isn’t anything new to you. Instead of letting other people’s comments get to you, focus on the positive aspects of your relationship. Long-distance relationships can work; if they didn’t, no one would bother giving it a try. Is it a challenge? Yes, but the best rewards come from overcoming those challenges.
Whether it’s a long-distance relationship or not, honesty is absolutely crucial. But, it’s not always easy being honest with your partner if you’re not honest with yourself. Take some time to reflect and see what you want in life and from the relationship. Maybe a long-distance relationship isn’t one you can handle, and that’s okay as long as you communicate those feelings to your partner.
Communicate, communicate, communicate
With long-distance relationships, you don’t have a lot of options when it comes to communication. At the end of the day, most of it is through your phone or computer. But that’s okay, just as long as you’re maintaining regular and fulfilling communication. Whether it’s through text or voice messages, or FaceTime, make communication a priority in your relationship.
Have long-term and short-term goals
You may be rolling your eyes at the idea of creating relationship goals, but when you’re in a long-distance relationship, they’re a must. How can a long-distance relationship turn into a concrete one unless you two have an idea of how the future will look?
Being in a long-distance relationship is one thing, but if you two lack goals, then it’s hard for the relationship to take the next step. With your partner, create short and long-term goals; it’ll build anticipation and give you something to look forward to.
Keep things sexy
A relationship isn’t a relationship unless there’s sexual chemistry between partners. Just because you’re in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean you can’t keep things spicy. Try different things out with your partner; maybe you two will enjoy phone sex or Skyping each other naked. The beauty with technology is there are endless ways to communicate; you just need to find the way that suits you.
Learn to deal with temptation
Everyone says, “you need to avoid temptation,” but is that what you really need to do? Avoid temptation? In reality, the temptation is everywhere, and if your goal is to avoid it, well, you won’t be getting out of your house much. Instead, focus on learning how to handle temptation.
If you’re trying to avoid certain people, like your ex, for example, you need to look within and ask yourself how you feel towards your current partner. Maybe your feelings have changed, or you’re struggling with the distance. Everyone is tempted from time to time; what’s important you understand your temptations and where those feelings are coming from.
When you’re miles apart, you’re going to need to use a little elbow grease to keep the spark alive. Long-distance relationships take a certain level of creativity since you’re already limited to what you two can do together. Have a dinner date over Skype, send each other letters or small gifts (like a sexy pair of panties) in the mail, and try out long-distance sex toys. It will take a little more effort, but it’s worth it.
Are long-distance relationships easy? Of course, they’re not. But which relationship is? If you want to have a successful long-distance relationship, try out these seven tips.